Here are your new hypnosis downloads to try this month. Remember that self hypnosis is not that “hocus pocus” stuff from the movies. It’s a form of self meditation that has been researched, tracked, and proven to help you see the changes and results you are looking for in your life.

1. Act on your Ideas

2. Stop compulsive hand washing

3. Dealing with narcissistic behavior

4. Stay at Home Mom

5. Stop Attention Seeking

6. Drink Less Wine

Take a look at all the hypnosis downloads here: Hypnosis Download Directory to find the one that’s right for you.

You have the attachments of your life: your job, your family, your living arrangement, your town, your lifestyle.  Then there are the more internal, personal attachments: your opinions about things, your ideas about how others perceive you, your beliefs, your values.  How much would it take for you to let them go?  Try it for a moment, just watched all these pre-conceived notions fade away as you let go of your attachments to Who You Are.

This includes your attachment to your past.  Let go of your childhood stories, your ideas about whether your family was normal or not.  Let go of your academic record, what your teachers said about you, what kind of kid you think you were.  Let go of your first job, your first date, your first road trip.  Release yourself from your attachment to all these things you have used to try to define yourself.

And of course, there’s attachment to your ideas about the present.  That things are going well, or that they’ve never been worse.  That you’re a success or a failure, or that there’s even any way to measure that.  That you drive an appropriate car for someone of your income level, but you could stand to lose a few pounds.  That you hate your job.  That you want to move to a new place.  That you should start cutting down on caffeine.  Let go of your attachment to all these ideas about how things are, about how things should be.

Now look at your attachment to your personality.  The kind of friend you are, the kind of worker you are, the kind of lover you are.  The idea that you’re funny, or serious, or eccentric.  That you’re more intelligent than most people, that you have a purpose.  That you get bored easily, that you learn new things easily.  That you give good advice, that people trust you or don’t trust you.  That you’re a dog person, that you’re an introvert, that you love to go dancing.  All your attachments to these ideas… let them go.

You’re also attached to your ideas about the world around you.  That big corporations are dangerous, that your political party is better than the other one, that your religious belief is probably the right one.  That nice guys finish last, that kids aren’t getting as good an education as they did in your day, that everything is different now, or that nothing ever changes.  You’re attached to your ideas, you can admit it… and now let that attachment go.

Then there are your attachments to the future.  The idea that your soulmate is out there, or that it matters whether or not a soulmate is even a real thing.  That if you would have given in and had sex with that certain person, they might have stuck around and you might have been married by now.  That you’ll have two kids, or six kids, or adopt kids, or not have any kids.  That God will look out for you when so many others around you are suffering.  That it doesn’t matter what you do because the world will soon end from global warming or terrorism anyway.  That everything will be fine if you can just finish your degree, or get that promotion, or relocate to your dream city.  The very idea that there is a dream city, a place where everything will be better than it is where you are now.  Just let it all go, all your attachments to these ideas.

So now that you’ve let it all go, what are you left with?  Who are you underneath all the attachments?  Great – now let that go, too!  Soon you may find that letting go is the best thing you ever did… then let go of that idea, as well.

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Did you know that about 70% of all women experience the baby blues after childbirth?

*Jill was so excited during her pregnancy. Both she and her husband had been preparing for the birth of their baby boy for months. The delivery was fairly smooth – no complications – and family members were there to support the happy new couple. But Jill was moody. While her husband held the baby, Jill would slip away into the bathroom and cry for 15 minutes, dry her eyes, and come back out to give her husband and the baby a kiss. Jill felt like this for about two weeks, give or take a few days, and then she began to feel like herself again. Jill had the baby blues.

Did you know that about 10-20% of new moms suffer from post-partum depression?

*Pat was also excited about her new bundle of joy. She was expecting a baby girl and had been nesting for weeks! The nursery was fully stocked with all types of pink confections. Her mother was staying with her to serve as a “mother’s helper” for as long as she needed. Once Pat delivered baby Mary, she had plenty of support from her mother and husband but felt badly. Physically she was wiped out. She couldn’t sleep. Wasn’t eating well. And while she didn’t tell her family, she was constantly riddled with feelings of anxiety over the baby. Most of the thoughts had to do with “what if” she hurt the baby this way or in that way. So she just didn’t deal with the baby, but rather passed her to her mother for most of the day. This went on for well over six weeks. Pat suffered from post-partum depression.

It’s taken decades for physicians to finally recognize the baby blues and post-partum depression. It had always been dismissed as folklore, much like menstrual cramps, for years. But there is strong evidence to suggest that both occur due to hormonal changes after childbirth. The difference between the two lies in the duration and severity of symptoms.

Baby blues usually occurs right after delivery and for no longer than about two weeks. The symptoms generally do not cripple a new mother’s day to day activities. Post-partum depression presents itself much like regular clinical depression. The only difference is that post-partum depression seems to be brought on by the trigger of childbirth. Symptoms may not start right after delivery, but will last much longer than two weeks. The symptoms will also be much more severe and may render the mother incapable of having good quality of life as a new mother.

Symptoms include: loss of appetite, difficulty sleeping or staying asleep, absence of interest in her newborn and lack of interest in day-to-day routines.

Fortunately, support systems have been popping up all over to address the needs of a new mother and her family all dealing with the effects of post-partum depression. Remember it is possible for a woman to suffer from a full-blown psychotic break (Andrea Yates) if not treated seriously. Treatment may include antidepressants such as Prozac and talk therapy.

Related reading:

Beyond the Blues
by Shoshana S. Bennett, Pec Indman

Down Came The Rain
by Brooke Shields

Guest Author: Gregory Scott Reid

Sometimes life throws us a curve. We think we’ve got it together, and we’re doing the right thing – only to find out that we didn’t really know what the right thing was in the first place.

Take Michael for example. As a department manager in a major corporation, Michael had 24 employees under his supervision. He was kept fairly busy supervising those employees, ensuring quotas were met, and reporting to his supervisors. Michael also spent a fair amount of time trying to impress those supervisors and the corporation’s upper management; you see, Michael was on a quest to climb the corporate ladder and was working hard for a promotion.

When the promotional opportunity arrived, Michael was confident. His department had met their goals; he had made sure of that. He had become quite good at assigning duties and delegating responsibilities and following through with employees who didn’t or couldn’t fulfill those tasks. Frankly, he thought of the interview process for the promotion as a formality – he was by far the best candidate.

The morning of the interview, Michael entered the conference room in his power suit and tie, prepared to recite his accomplishments to his supervisors. Imagine his surprise when he looked around the table and not one supervisor or administrator was present. The entire committee consisted of employees in his department – the very employees under his management! Their roles quickly reversed as one employee explained that the company decided those best able to determine if a manager should be promoted were the employees he worked for. Michael was stunned – he didn’t work for them at all – they worked for him!

That is where Michael was wrong. The company believed that a manager’s role is to make it easier for employees accomplish their jobs, to remove any obstacles in their way, and to make sure they had the all the tools and training they needed to get the job done. In essence, his job was to help them! Michael was crestfallen as he realized that he had been managing his department under an entirely different philosophy, assuming his job was to give orders, and his subordinates were to follow them. Michael’s management style had backfired; if he had helped his employees, they most certainly would have recognized and rewarded his contributions to their team.

Put yourself in Michael’s shoes. Imagine being told you lost your job but could reapply, all you had to do was receive the recommendations of your subordinates or coworkers. Would you want your fate resting in their hands?

Biography: Gregory Scott Reid, #1 best selling author The Millionaire Mentor, Positive Impact, and co-author Wake up…Live the life you Love http://www.motivational-speaker-gregory-scott-reid.com

Lisa Angelettie, M.S.W., is a psychotherapist, author, and life coach. She has been helping people make smarter life choices since 1998. Get more free tips like this when you subscribe to the GirlShrink newsletter .

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Guest Author: Ruben Gonzalez

Why do some people pursue their dreams while others bury their dreams?

It comes down to belief and desire. Whether you believe it’s possible, whether you believe YOU can do it, and whether you want the dream enough to do whatever it takes.

Let’s say you believe it’s possible and you think there’s a good chance you can pull it off … now, what steps do you need to take to make it happen?

Step number one is the willingness to take the risk. Many people are able but few are willing. You see, you always have to give something up in order to get something better. Most people are not willing to give anything up. They are not willing to make any sacrifices. They expect success to just fall on their lap.

That’s just not how life works. There’s no free lunch. Not only do you have to be willing to go for it, but you have to be willing to do whatever it takes.

Let’s break that last sentence down.

You have to be willing. Willing means that you are open minded. Open minded means you are not judgmental. It means not making any excuses. It means you are open to doing whatever might be required.

Whatever it takes is a level of commitment. Being committed means you have made a decision that you will continue to pursue your goal no matter what the consequences.

When you have a clear objective and are committed, you’ll naturally start doing the things that will move you towards your objective, and you’ll naturally stop doing the things that move you away from your objective.

When you have a dream you are willing to fight for, the process takes care of itself.

Whatever it takes is not just a level of commitment. It’s a HIGH level of commitment. And, believe it or not, it’s the lowest level of commitment that will guarantee that you will realize your dream.

Let me explain. If reaching your dream, whether it be to become financially free, or to buy a new car, or to be able to take your family to Disneyland for two weeks, or to get your PhD…no matter what your dream is, you have to be willing to do whatever it takes.

Here’s why. If realizing your dream involves 64 items, 64 things you have to do, you have to be willing to do all 64 of them. If you’re only willing to do 63 of them, but not #64, then #64 will be your undoing and you can kiss your dream goodbye.

It’s an attitude thing.

Life will seldom ask you to do all 64 things. But you don’t know which ones you’ll have to do, so you’d better be willing to do all 64. The “whatever it takes” attitude will help you do the required items so well that success will be assured.

The trick is to be willing to do whatever it takes with no guarantees of success. Only then is success possible.

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Ruben Gonzalez is the author of the critically acclaimed book, “The Courage to Succeed.” His experiences as a three-time Olympian, businessman, and professional keynote speaker give him a unique perspective on how to conquer the corporate struggles of today. For his free 10-Part Success eCourse, visit http://www.StartWinningMore.com or contact him at 832-689-8282.

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Guest Author: Stan Popovich

All most everybody worries about what will happen in the future. The prospect of not knowing if something good or bad will happen to you in the near future can produce a lot of fear and anxiety. As a result, here is a list of techniques and suggestions on how to manage this fear of dealing with the unknown.

The first step is to learn to take it one day at a time. Instead of worrying about how you will get through the rest of the week or coming month, try to focus on today. Each day can provide us with different opportunities to learn new things and that includes learning how to deal with your problems. When the time comes, hopefully you will have learned the skills to deal with your situation.

Another thing to remember is that no one can predict the future with 100 Percent certainty. Even if the thing that you feared does happen there are circumstances and factors that you can’t predict which can be used to your advantage. For instance, let’s say at your place of work that you miss the deadline for a project you have been working on for the last few months. Everything you feared is coming true. Suddenly, your boss comes to your office and tells you that the deadline is extended and that he forgot to tell you the day before. This unknown factor changes everything.

Remember: we may be ninety-nine percent correct in predicting the future, but all it takes is for that one percent to make a world of difference.

Sometimes what we fear may happen can be over exaggerated. A lot of times, our worrying can make the problem even worse. For those of you who believe in God, prayer can be very effective. In the end, we have to leave it in the hands of God. If God wants something to happen to us, it will happen regardless. All the worrying in the world will not change anything.

All you can do is to do your best each day, hope for the best, and when something does happen, take it in stride by using the help of God. God will help us through our problems if we ask Him.

As a Layman, I realize it is not easy to deal with the fear of the unknown, however sometimes the fear can be worse than the situation. If you have trouble managing your anxiety of the future, then talking to a counselor or clergyman can be of great help. There are ways to help manage your fear and all it takes is some effort to find those answers.

Stan Popovich is the author of “A Layman’s Guide to Managing Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant Methods” – an easy to read book that presents a general overview of techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. For additional information and free articles go to: http://www.managingfear.com/

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Guest Author: Stan Popovich

Sometime or another we will experience a time when we are alone. Some people fear of being alone for various reasons. The first step is to become comfortable with yourself and having the self-confidence that you will be able to manage being alone. There is nothing wrong with being alone. If being alone bothers you then seeing a counselor can help you with these issues.

In the meantime, here is a short list of techniques that a person can use so that the fear of being alone doesn’t become a major issue in their lives.

The first step is to find an activity that you enjoy and where you can meet a lot of people. For instance, joining a group activity such as a volleyball group, women’s club, or making Crafts can be a great way to meet people. Doing something that you like to do will make you happy and will increase your chances of making friends.

Spending time with animals can be a great source of companionship. Whether you have a dog or you go to your local shelter, spending time with an animal or pet can help us to feel better. Animals can be of good company to all of us whether we are alone or not.

Helping others through community service can be of some help. There are many people out there who could benefit from your time and talents. Helping others can give you a source of pride and accomplishment and also can lead to friendships.

It isn’t fun being alone, but sometimes there are worse things. For instance, imagine that you are married or stuck in a relationship that you can’t get out of and also makes you miserable. Not only do you have to live with this person, but there is no way to get out of the relationship because of various financial or personal reasons. As a result, you are stuck living with someone that you can’t stand and makes you depressed every single day of your life. With this viewpoint, being alone doesn’t sound that bad.

For those of you who believe in God, spending time with God and praying to him can help us in our lonely situation. Spending time with God and asking God for help in our time of loneliness can be of great comfort. You never know how God will work in ones life. Ask him for help and trust that he will help you.

As a Layman, the important thing is to do something constructive. Sitting around and doing nothing will not make things any better whether its dealing with the fear of being alone or something else. Take it one day at a time and stay committed in trying to solve your problem.

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Stan Popovich is the author of “A Layman’s Guide to Managing Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant Methods” – an easy to read book that presents a general overview of techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. For additional information and free articles please go to: http://www.managingfear.com/

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Guest Author: Vickie Milazzo

What is it about Mother’s Day that you love so much? Do you love the fact that your husband and child join forces to prepare breakfast in bed for you? Or is it that your husband acknowledges what a great mom you are? Or simply that this day is not like every other when you collapse into bed as limp as an overused sponge and wonder, “How long can I keep up this mad pace?”

Today’s mom is so busy doing it all that she rarely has the time to enjoy life’s greatest gift, her family.

The reality today is that even as women are making incredible achievements they’re still battling the stereotype of traditional wife and mother. When the boss wants that report finished, do you stay late and take home fast food again, or tick off the boss and derail your promotion?

A clever mom can do anything, but you should NOT do everything. Follow these simple strategies and enjoy the benefits of Mother’s Day year-round:

1. Realize the power and freedom of NO. There are only 24 hours in a day and if you want more time to yourself, whether it be at work, at home or for leisure activities, you have to learn to say NO to everybody else’s expectations. It takes practice, but learn to say NO to every other cause that comes along that distracts you from your career or personal goals. The YES is for your priorities and puts you in the driver’s seat of your own destiny.

2. Draw your husband in. Sit down, hide the remote and tell your husband how much you appreciate him. Then explain you’re feeling overloaded. Just show him the long pre-prepared list of all your responsibilities. Then together decide on joint responsibilities and all the ways they could be handled—dinnertime: cook, eat out, eat TV dinners, etc. Find the best solution and get through your list while inviting your husband to offer some solutions. Be open to his ideas (no matter how impractical they are).

3. Delegate, delegate, delegate. If you want a career and a happy family life you’re going to have to learn to delegate. You need let your family know: “I cannot handle all the laundry, all the housework and all the carpools.” Your husband and children will have to chip in and help. Start with small things and slowly increase their responsibilities. Make sure to offer encouragement along the way but train them exactly the way you want it done. For small errands and housework it may be worth hiring help.

4. Stoke the fire. Apply your newly reclaimed time to what you passionately love doing. Is it travel? Pursuing a new career path? Exploring a talent such as writing or music? Go for it.
Here’s the bonus: when Mom feels energetic about life, the whole family benefits. And your renewal enhances your business life. So stoke up the passion and Happy Mother’s Day.

Biography: Inc. Top 10 Entrepreneur, Vickie L. Milazzo, RN, MSN, JD is the founder and president of Vickie Milazzo Institute, a legal nurse consultant training and certification company. She is the author of Inside Every Woman: Using the 10 Strengths You Didn’t Know You Had to Get the Career and Life You Want Now, 2006.

Lisa Angelettie, M.S.W., is a psychotherapist, author, and life coach. She has been helping people make smarter life choices since 1998. Get more free tips like this when you subscribe to the GirlShrink newsletter .

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Guest Author: Devlyn Steele

As an expert in self-development, I can tell you that there isn’t a person I have met yet that isn’t successful. In fact, there isn’t a person who is not successful. Not only are you successful, but everyone you know and don’t know are successful as well. You question this? That is natural. After all, you may not feel all that successful and at the very least, you don’t consider most people you have known or seen successful.

Yet, I still insist that everyone is successful no matter who they are and what they are doing. That is, without question, a fact. The question is not whether or not a person is successful; rather what they are being successful at.

Remove the idea that success means that there is a positive outcome. Think more about success as the ability to follow through with behavior to produce any outcome. A definition of success is “to end up with the intended result.” Nothing is ever achieved, good or bad, without successful behavior.

The results in our lives (be they positive or negative) take time to realize. No one walks into a gym and gets in shape the same day. Getting in shape requires that you develop successful behavior towards the result of being in shape. First, the person makes a choice, either on a conscious or unconscious basis, which internalizes the decision to get in shape. Next, the person follows through with the behavior, works out, and eats correctly so that over time the result of being in shape is realized.

We consider the behavior of getting in shape and producing that result a success. Conversely, the same is true about negative results. It takes successful behavior to produce a negative outcome. Just as getting in shape takes time, an alcoholic does not become addicted the first time he or she has a drink. They internalize a decision either on a conscious or unconscious level and follow through with consistent behavior that successfully results in alcoholism.

Therefore, whether you are making money or not, either is a result of your successful behavior. If you are in shape or overweight, both are successes. Whether you have a good or a bad relationship, a job you like or not, A’s or F’s in school, everything is a result of the choices you are making and each is a success in that regard.

The importance of recognizing both your positive and negative results as successes means that you recognize that you do have the ability and power to produce results through successful behavior. What this also means is that you know how to be successful. The problem is not your inability to be successful, but rather the choices you make in what you decide to be successful towards.

This means that you do not need to learn how to be successful. You need to learn how to make different choices and then follow through with the successful behavior you already know. Interestingly enough this applies equally to negative and positive behavior. The most successful people you can think of in business, entertainment or other, often are not flourishing in other areas of their lives. One can have isolated success yet maintain a very unhappy or dissatisfied life.

I often challenge people to decide to mirror their positive successful behavior in all areas of their lives creating what I call a balanced successful life. You can achieve this through recognizing your successful behavior and working towards positive outcomes and self-development. The guidance of a proper self development program can work as a roadmap to the life you want to create.

I like to over simplify the idea of success and say that if you can put on a pair of shoes, then you are successful. In order to put on a pair of shoes a person has to first make a decision to do so, select the shoes they wish to put on then follow through with the behavior to put on the shoes. Once the shoes are on, that person has produced a success. The question now is what shoes are you successfully deciding to walk through your life in? The truth is you can wear any shoes you choose!

Biography: Life Coach Devlyn Steele is a passionate author in the field of self-improvement. He is striving to bring personal development to a new level of success with his new program, Http://www.Toolstolife.com. To find out all about Devlyn Steele and his guided self development program, please go to: lifecoachadvice.com

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Determining your self-worth is something that you do everyday.

- Asking for a specific salary.
- Asking the grocery store to stock better produce.
- Requesting the waiter to bring back your entree HOT next time.

All these scenarios are examples of defining boundaries and determining self-worth.

If you feel only grateful to have gotten the interview and are afraid to ask for a competitive salary…you probably don’t believe you are worthy of the job or the best salary.

If you are upset about the quality of your produce and hope for a better selection next time – what message are you sending? That it’s fine for the store to sell you wilted lettuce and mushy tomatoes? Probably.

If your server brings you a cold entree and you rather not make waves by complaining – will you really feel satisfied with the meal you just ate? Don’t you deserve to be pleased with a meal that you paid for?

People will only treat you, or pay you, or give you what you set your self-worth at.

If you find that you are having trouble raising the bar of your standards…you could use some self-esteem building exercises.

Once your self confidence grows it will be much easier for you to ask for what you are worth.

Self-esteem/confidence building resources:
The Self Esteem Workbook is a fantastic skills building resource.

Self Esteem For Women is a website completely dedicated to building a woman’s self-esteem.

Hypnosis for Self-Confidence and Self-Esteem is like a professional hypnosis session on CD. No fluff or flowers!

Lisa Angelettie, M.S.W., is a psychotherapist, author, and life coach. She has been helping people make smarter life choices since 1998. Get more free tips like this when you subscribe to the GirlShrink newsletter .

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