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		<title>How Life is For a Bipolar Borderline Personality Disorder Person</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 11 Jan 2011 07:22:56 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Patricia Patterson</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Group of borderline disorders that share common characteristics of mood instability like fear, anger, self- mutilation and others are often referred to as bipolar borderline personality disorders. Individuals who suffer from this type of mood disorders are said to have omnipresent or widespread instability of moods which makes it hard for them to be in [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>Group of borderline disorders that share common characteristics of mood instability like fear, anger, self- mutilation and others are often referred to as bipolar borderline personality disorders. Individuals who suffer from this type of mood disorders are said to have omnipresent or widespread instability of moods which makes it hard for them to be in a relationship long-term; or in some cases to be comfortable around other people.</p>
<p>This type of disorder condition is seen often equally in both women and men also. Borderline disorder can start earlier in life, but most of the time it is demonstrated fully as people get older. Individuals who have this type of disorder are often more likely to get in and get out of relationships; too afraid to be abandoned. As soon as they are into any relationship they become more controlling and may not want to let go. They are said to be indiscriminate in their sexual activities. They find themselves in a vicious cycle of love and hate relationship, which is their allusion of being in love, even though they are the ones who will quickly abandon the relationship without any apparent reasons. Those who suffer from this condition often will look for acceptance from others to make them feel wanted and complete.</p>
<p>Bipolar Borderline Personality Disorders is a combination of manic-depressive moods and borderline personality disorder. It is not a rare case when you are already diagnosed with one or two of these disorders. Borderline personality disorder is mostly distinguished with manic depressive episodes including some similar signs or symptoms of depression and anxiety.</p>
<p>Often, it is hard to deal with individuals who have this type of personality disorder because they can also be aggressive and manipulative. One in every fifthly person in America is diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and sometimes even more. The cause of Bipolar Borderline Personality Disorders is said to be unknown however, environment and genetic factors are said to play a major role in its development.</p>
<p>A great percentage of people with Borderline Disorders claimed to have been abused as a child. Neglected or abandoned by parents or caregiver. Most researches indicates their vulnerability to stresses of the environment in their earlier lives when there were younger, helpless, and unable to control what is happening to them. The unhappy earlier life or memory of abuse are often factors which will lead to making bad judgments as a grown-up when it comes to making life decisions like choosing life partner for example.</p>
<p>Bipolar Borderline Personality Disorder as most other types of mental disorder conditions are often emanated from mania or depression. And like most depression disorder, this type of disorder is often treated with mood stabilizing drugs or antidepressants. Also, people with this type of condition are treated with psychotherapy or talk-therapies to help see if they can self analyze themselves on emotional level. This type of treatment involves one on one therapy with the psychotherapist to build a solid relationship. Bipolar can occur time after time, or even get worse over time, and this is one reason proper treatment with therapies and medication are very crucial. In most case, individuals who suffer from borderline disorders are treated more imperiously with anti-psychotic medications which are intended to help them from injuring themselves or even commit suicide.</p>
<p>Ben Paul is an expert author who has written extensively about different types of medical and health related matters. If you want to know more about causes and symptoms of depression and anxiety visit this page about <a href="http://www.onlinemedicineinfo.com/adderall.php">aderall</a> or other related pages like: <a href="http://www.onlinemedicineinfo.com/">online medicine</a> for depression and much more.</p>
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		<title>Stop Panic Attacks! A Primer for Hope</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 01 Dec 2010 08:59:56 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Patricia Patterson</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Panic attacks are no fun. Your heart races, you hyperventilate, feel dizzy or unreal and definitely terrified, sweat buckets (or shiver), think awful thoughts, and so on. Often panic attacks strike &#8220;out of the blue&#8221;&#8211;for no apparent reason. Sometimes they wake people at night. Maybe a series of stresses chipped away at your sense of [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>Panic attacks are no fun. Your heart races, you hyperventilate, feel dizzy or unreal and definitely terrified, sweat buckets (or shiver), think awful thoughts, and so on. Often panic attacks strike &#8220;out of the blue&#8221;&#8211;for no apparent reason. Sometimes they wake people at night.</p>
<p>Maybe a series of stresses chipped away at your sense of well-being and health. Maybe a terrible trauma knocked you off your feet. Maybe you don&#8217;t remember or know why you even became susceptible to panic attacks.</p>
<p>But you want to stop the panic. You want to get back to being &#8220;normal.&#8221; You want the cloud over your head to move away and the terror to leave. There are ways that have worked for many people of all different stripes and sizes. There are ways that can and will work for you. Do you believe that?</p>
<p>Unfortunately, you can&#8217;t just say &#8220;I believe&#8221; and it will all go away. At least not usually. But if you &#8220;want out&#8221; of the attacks, your belief can help you keep fighting through to end them.</p>
<p>It is a big step, for example, from thinking you are crazy or going to die to believing that your panic attack symptoms are not a sign of immediate harm. They do not accurately reflect any problem you might have.</p>
<p>Part of the problem with panic attacks is typically that your mind interprets your symptoms to mean something really bad is about to happen. You are anxious, so you have symptoms. The symptoms &#8220;prove&#8221; you should fear more. So more symptoms come, which increases fear, which causes more symptoms. Fear has a way of multiplying and magnifying itself. A state of anxiety can quickly accelerate into full blown panic. Your brain slams on the gas and accelerates into overdrive.</p>
<p>Understanding this is often a helpful first step to controlling panic. But more is needed. There are ways to retrain the brain to short-circuit inappropriate use of the fear accelerator. And such training is almost always a big help, if it is done right &#8230; with a little discipline.</p>
<p>But a word of caution or clarification. Think of your body, indeed all of whoever you are, as a complex, interconnected web of causes and effects. Hormones, nutrition, nerves, cellular waste, emotions, senses, genetic predisposition, human will, history of experiences, immune system, self-understanding &#8212; the whole ball of wax is like a set of nodes linked to other nodes. Any given node affects ever other one. Influence one node and in some degree you&#8217;ve influenced all. Your emotions affect your immune system. Your nutrition affects your emotions. Whatever.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m not saying we can never understand how to stop panic attacks. I am saying there may be more than one cause behind your attacks. And that there may be more than one way to improve.</p>
<p>Stresses in our particular circumstances may also need particular solutions. Financial problems, work stress, alcohol abuse, dysfunctional family relations, bullies at school, drugs, rejection, loss, trauma, and so on may need to be properly addressed to find relief caused in part from such sources.</p>
<p>That said, some approaches have proven to be more effective than others in most cases. A disciplined regimen of retraining your subconscious mind not to fear is one of them. Part of that may be practicing sincere gratitude even when stressed. Another is identifying and accepting fears. Avoidance encourages fear; facing fear helps control it. You may need some training and encouragement in this. But your mind is a powerful ally in unraveling your panic attack knot.</p>
<p>Note also that the effectiveness of a number of approaches varies with the causes and circumstances of the individual. Some prefer prescription anti-anxiety medication, if they feel the side effects are acceptable. Herbal substitutes to anti-anxiety drugs (like Kava Kava, Valerian, Hops, Lemon Balm, and Passionflower) and some nutritional supplements (like B-vitamins, vitamins C, and Magnesium) may be helpful and milder, with fewer side effects. Regular exercise, proper sleep and hydration, and avoidance of caffeine and alcohol may each play their helpful part.</p>
<p>In other words, there is hope for you to control and stop your anxiety and panic attacks. Just keep going.</p>
<p>Next read more specifics on how to <a href="http://panic-attackrelief.com/how-to-stop-panic-attacks/">how to stop panic attacks</a> and sign up for the free report and email mini-course on getting anxiety and <a href="http://panic-attackrelief.com">panic attack relief</a>. The author is a long time health enthusiast interested in helping people overcome anxiety.</p>
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		<title>Think Your Way Out Of The Blues</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 17 Nov 2010 22:00:36 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Patricia Patterson</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Blog]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Depression]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[One of the best bits of advice that I ever got is about the best way to handle tough situations. We know that we cannot prevent every bad thing, but what we can do is work on our own response to the situation. Sometimes we do need help. But many times we really can influence [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>One of the best bits of advice that I ever got is about the best way to handle tough situations. We know that we cannot prevent every bad thing, but what we can do is work on our own response to the situation.</p>
<p>Sometimes we do need help. But many times we really can influence our own moods by the way we think about the negative situations that caused a case of the blues!</p>
<p>Have you ever seen people who have just endured an awful situation? If you turn on the nightly news, stories about people who have lost their homes or been through an illness are common. Some focus on what they have lost, and this is easy to understand. But other people focus on what they did not lose, and they start thinking about a better future.</p>
<p>Imagine two families who lost their homes in a sudden wind storm.</p>
<p>One family is in tears because they lost all of their furniture, family pictures, or other items that will be hard to replace. They must take shelter with friends, family, or the community. Their normal life seems to have been destroyed within minutes.</p>
<p>A second family is crying with joy because all of the people in their family are unharmed and safe. This family is just happy that they have found shelter right now. This family is also already trying to figure out how they can recover.</p>
<p>I would not blame the first family, and I would understand that they are probably experiencing a very normal reaction to a trauma. But I would say that the second family is better off. They are thinking about making progress in the future. You see that the second family is trying not to dwell on the problems.</p>
<p>Hopefully, most of you will not ever lose your homes in a sudden storm. But I am sure that all of us have experienced some setbacks that seemed just awful at the time. This could be a job loss, social snub, illness, or problems with family members. I cannot imagine that anybody ever gets through life without having some bad things happen.</p>
<p>If you can try to focus on the steps you will take to remedy the situation, instead of how awful the setback is, you will do yourself a favor. You will be working toward a better tomorrow. And you will not suffer as much pain today.</p>
<p>You can try to control your own response to help you get through a variety tough situations. Have you gained too much weight, lost your job, or had problems with your spouse or partner? You will make a lot more progress is you can work out a plan to fix some of the problems. There are solutions, but you have to start searching for them.</p>
<p>Do not be afraid to seek help when you need it. A friend, clergy member, or mental health professional may have answers that you seek.</p>
<p>I have heard the cliche that attitude is everything. I do not believe that a positive attitude can cure everything but without a good mental outlook, it can be hard to survive the most minor setbacks.</p>
<p>Do you need more motivation? Stop by the website if this popular <a href="http://amydeekris.com/blog/motivational-speaking/iowa-motivational-speaking/">Iowa Motivational Speaker </a>for more positive thoughts. See what a good <a href="http://amydeekris.com/blog/motivational-speaking/midwest-motivational-speaking/">Midwestern Motivational speaker </a>can do for your group.</p>
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		<title>Vitamins for Panic Attacks</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 16 Nov 2010 22:00:04 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Patricia Patterson</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[A panic attack is normally thought of as an out-of-control or extreme bout of anxiety. Anxiety and panic are emotions with corresponding bio-chemical reactions in the brain. Nutritional deficiencies or imbalances in the brain can contribute to susceptibility to and severity of panic attacks. While not necessarily a cure-all, vitamins and nutritional supplements can thus [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>A panic attack is normally thought of as an out-of-control or extreme bout of anxiety. Anxiety and panic are emotions with corresponding bio-chemical reactions in the brain.</p>
<p>Nutritional deficiencies or imbalances in the brain can contribute to susceptibility to and severity of panic attacks. While not necessarily a cure-all, vitamins and nutritional supplements can thus play a positive, even critical role in improving the brain&#8217;s ability to function properly in regards to anxiety and panic.</p>
<p>Note also that stress tends to deplete the body of nutrients, or the diet may be nutritionally imbalanced or fail to deliver adequate amounts of a particular nutrient needed to maintain brain function in handling anxiety.</p>
<p>Vitamins and supplements helpful for panic attack follow, not necessarily in the order of importance. As always, if you are taking pharmaceutical drugs to control panic and anxiety or depression or for anything else, consult your doctor in regards to possible negative effects of combining the drugs with specific nutrition.</p>
<p>1) B-vitamins function best when there are enough of each kind present, hence the prevalence of multi-B supplement products. B vitamins are essential in many metabolic reactions in the body, some notably in nerve cell functioning. Vitamin B-6 or pyridoxine is known to have a calming effect on mood. Inositol (B <img src='http://girlshrink.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_cool.gif' alt='8)' class='wp-smiley' /> and niacinamide &#8212; the latter being an amide of niacin (B 3) and not to be confused with it &#8212; are useful for enhancing GABA functions in the brain.</p>
<p>In this connection note also that probiotic supplements, such as those with acidophilus and/or bifidus strains, consist of helpful bacteria that enhance B vitamin production in the gut.</p>
<p>2) GABA or Gamma-aminobutyric acid is an amino acid which inhibits or decelerates nerve firings from the limbic to the cortex portions of the brain. During panic attacks, the limbic system, and amygdala in particular, signal the cortex rapidly and relentlessly. GABA supplementation, especially with inositol and niacinamide, help slow down the reaction. GABA is found throughout the central nervous system.</p>
<p>3) Vitamin C is found in high concentrations in the adrenal glands (on top of the kidneys). The body&#8217;s need for Vitamin C increases under stress. Known for having a tranquilizing effect in higher doses, perhaps because it (with glutamine) helps reduce the production of cortisol, one of the hormone the body produces in reaction to stress.</p>
<p>4) Magnesium supplements, taken in balance with calcium, helps reduce muscle tension and spasm. Magnesium can lower blood pressure and is useful in proper nerve function and the body&#8217;s use of B vitamins and vitamin C.</p>
<p>5) Taurine is an amino acid with a similar effect to GABA. Useful for epileptic and spastic conditions.</p>
<p>6) Tryptophan is the amino acid found in Turkey meat which helps you feel drowsy. Niacinamide helps with the production of tryptophan, which is known to help with insomnia if one&#8217;s anxiety disorder is accompanied by sleep problems. Tryptophan is used in the production of serotonin, a neurotransmitter used in regulating mood. Some persons exhibiting obsessive-compulsive behaviors showed improvement after supplementing with tryptophan. 5-HTP or 5-hydroxytryptophan is an intermediate step in producing serotonin from tryptophan. It is also available in supplement form and has been known to reduce symptoms of anxiety.</p>
<p>7) Tyrosine or L-tyrosine is an amino acid used in the production of neurotransmitters such as dopamine and epinephrine useful in controlling anxiety and depression. Dopamine has a tranquilizing effect. Tyrosine should not be take when patients are on MAO inhibitor drugs.</p>
<p>If a natural anxiety treatment such as the above can be found to remedy anxiety and panic attack disorders, they may be preferred to the negative side effects common among drugs. As always though, you need to find out what works best for you.</p>
<p>And if you have panic attacks, nutritional supplements may help, but should in any case normally be included with other remedies.</p>
<p>Next, see further helpful information about <a href="http://panic-attackrelief.com/herbs-for-panic-disorder-three-areas/">natural anxiety remedies </a>and be sure to sign up for the free report and email mini-course on <a href="http://panic-attackrelief.com">panic attack relief</a>. The author is a long time health enthusiast interested in helping people overcome anxiety and panic.</p>
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		<title>New Hypnosis Downloads</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 16 Jul 2010 06:29:37 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Here are your new hypnosis downloads to try this month. Remember that self hypnosis is not that &#8220;hocus pocus&#8221; stuff from the movies. It&#8217;s a form of self meditation that has been researched, tracked, and proven to help you see the changes and results you are looking for in your life. 1. Act on your [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>Here are your new hypnosis downloads to try this month. Remember that self hypnosis is not that &#8220;hocus pocus&#8221; stuff from the movies. It&#8217;s a form of self meditation that has been researched, tracked, and proven to help you see the changes and results you are looking for in your life.</p>
<p>1. <a href="http://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/motivation-inspiration/act-ideas?975">Act on your Ideas</a></p>
<p>2. <a href="http://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/addiction-help/compulsive-washing?975">Stop compulsive hand washing</a></p>
<p>3. <a href="http://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/difficult-people/narcissist?975">Dealing with narcissistic behavior</a></p>
<p>4. <a href="http://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/parenting-skills/home-mom?975">Stay at Home Mom</a></p>
<p>5. <a href="http://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/interpersonal-skills/attention-seeking?975">Stop Attention Seeking</a></p>
<p>6. <a href="http://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/bad-habits/wine-drinking?975">Drink Less Wine</a></p>
<p>Take a look at all the hypnosis downloads here: <a href="http://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/?975">Hypnosis Download Directory</a> to find the one that&#8217;s right for you.</p>
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		<title>Attachments And Letting Go</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Jul 2010 19:49:48 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Maryanne Comaroto</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[You have the attachments of your life: your job, your family, your living arrangement, your town, your lifestyle.  Then there are the more internal, personal attachments: your opinions about things, your ideas about how others perceive you, your beliefs, your values.  How much would it take for you to let them go?  Try it for [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>You have the attachments of your life: your job, your family, your living arrangement, your town, your lifestyle.  Then there are the more internal, personal attachments: your opinions about things, your ideas about how others perceive you, your beliefs, your values.  How much would it take for you to let them go?  Try it for a moment, just watched all these pre-conceived notions fade away as you let go of your attachments to Who You Are.</p>
<p>This includes your attachment to your past.  Let go of your childhood stories, your ideas about whether your family was normal or not.  Let go of your academic record, what your teachers said about you, what kind of kid you think you were.  Let go of your first job, your first date, your first road trip.  Release yourself from your attachment to all these things you have used to try to define yourself.</p>
<p>And of course, there&#8217;s attachment to your ideas about the present.  That things are going well, or that they&#8217;ve never been worse.  That you&#8217;re a success or a failure, or that there&#8217;s even any way to measure that.  That you drive an appropriate car for someone of your income level, but you could stand to lose a few pounds.  That you hate your job.  That you want to move to a new place.  That you should start cutting down on caffeine.  Let go of your attachment to all these ideas about how things are, about how things should be.</p>
<p>Now look at your attachment to your personality.  The kind of friend you are, the kind of worker you are, the kind of lover you are.  The idea that you&#8217;re funny, or serious, or eccentric.  That you&#8217;re more intelligent than most people, that you have a purpose.  That you get bored easily, that you learn new things easily.  That you give good advice, that people trust you or don&#8217;t trust you.  That you&#8217;re a dog person, that you&#8217;re an introvert, that you love to go dancing.  All your attachments to these ideas… let them go.</p>
<p>You&#8217;re also attached to your ideas about the world around you.  That big corporations are dangerous, that your political party is better than the other one, that your religious belief is probably the right one.  That nice guys finish last, that kids aren&#8217;t getting as good an education as they did in your day, that everything is different now, or that nothing ever changes.  You&#8217;re attached to your ideas, you can admit it… and now let that attachment go.</p>
<p>Then there are your attachments to the future.  The idea that your soulmate is out there, or that it matters whether or not a soulmate is even a real thing.  That if you would have given in and had sex with that certain person, they might have stuck around and you might have been married by now.  That you&#8217;ll have two kids, or six kids, or adopt kids, or not have any kids.  That God will look out for you when so many others around you are suffering.  That it doesn&#8217;t matter what you do because the world will soon end from global warming or terrorism anyway.  That everything will be fine if you can just finish your degree, or get that promotion, or relocate to your dream city.  The very idea that there <em>is</em> a dream city, a place where everything will be better than it is where you are now.  Just let it all go, all your attachments to these ideas.</p>
<p>So now that you&#8217;ve let it all go, what are you left with?  Who are you underneath all the attachments?  Great &#8211; now let that go, too!  Soon you may find that letting go is the best thing you ever did… then let go of that idea, as well.</p>
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		<title>New Orleans Saints Superbowl Win Improve City&#8217;s Mood?</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 08 Feb 2010 04:48:14 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[It seems like the whole country had been pulling for the New Orleans Saints Football team to win the Superbowl this year. Sure, some of us were looking forward to the commercials. Or for the great Superbowl party and food we were going to have. But the overall mood and feeling of the country, seemed [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>It seems like the whole country had been pulling for the New Orleans Saints Football team to win the Superbowl this year. Sure, some of us were looking forward to the commercials. Or for the great Superbowl party and food we were going to have. But the overall mood and feeling of the country, seemed to be that they would of liked to see the New Orleans Saints win the championship not only for themselves but for their city, their state, their region of the country.</p>
<p>New Orleans which has been financially, structurally, and still emotionally devastated by Hurricane Katrina was looking for a sign of some sorts to give them hope that the city was moving forward in the right direction. Towards change. Towards progress. Looks like they got their wish as the New Orleans Saints are the new Superbowl champions.</p>
<p>Will this win improve the city&#8217;s mood? Will it improve their city? I think so. That is why professional sports are so popular around the world. They have the ability to mobilize and bring together people from all walks of life to support and cheer and hope for the same cause. In this case, this team&#8217;s journey to the Superbowl seemed to have brought together many people all over the U.S.</p>
<p>This great win and honor for the city of New Orleans may bring back more tourism. It may bring back more industry. It may bring back or rather increase the already rising spirit of the city and attract people who want to come back and live there. </p>
<p>What New Orleans needed after the devastation of Hurricane Katrina was a big emotional lift to get them out of the light of a city who was &#8220;pitied&#8221; and rather a city who is now admired and one that people are genuinely happy for.</p>
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		<title>Confessions Of Suicide: A Book Excerpt by G.E. Wilson</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;Please enjoy this excerpt from today&#8217;s featured author G.E. Wilson&#8217;s book Dying To Live, Confessions of Suicide. If you have ever battled depression or another mental health disorder (or a loved one has), thought about giving up, then this book may hit home for you in many ways. Enjoy&#8230;&#8221; Isn’t it time to smile again? [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p><img src="http://girlshrink.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/coverSITE.jpg" alt="coverSITE" title="coverSITE" width="200" height="300" class="alignleft size-full wp-image-844" /><em>&#8220;Please enjoy this excerpt from today&#8217;s featured author G.E. Wilson&#8217;s book Dying To Live, Confessions of Suicide. If you have ever battled depression or another mental health disorder (or a loved one has), thought about giving up, then this book may hit home for you in many ways. Enjoy&#8230;&#8221; </em></p>
<p><strong>Isn’t it time to smile again?</strong></p>
<p>Dying to Live, confessions of suicide.<br />
By G.E. Wilson</p>
<p>“Dying to Live, confessions of suicide” is an ebook offering remarkable insight into mental illness and what can truly push us over the edge.</p>
<p>The book’s title sums up the courageous confession of the author&#8217;s plight, together with her triumphant battle to overcome. </p>
<p>Met with challenge after challenge, a mentally abusive father, rejection, the divorce of her parents, homelessness, depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, social anxiety disorder, suppression, and a tremendous struggle to live in a world she felt unjust, she finally imploded.</p>
<p>It was a failed attempt at suicide that would eventually…. Shock her world.</p>
<p>Physically she withstood the ordeal, mentally and emotionally proved to be a battle, but one of which she was determined to conquer. A new mission in life was to combat the fears and pain that ultimately led her down the road of despair.<br />
Upon immediate release from a county run mental health facility the author started writing about the journey that spiraled towards self destruction, including time spent in the asylum. A new found wisdom from the wake up call gave rise to a different perception of life. She is now medication and depression free.</p>
<p>This courageous book will open your eyes, as it gradually unravels the power of self help and how we can turn our lives around.</p>
<p>Many books have been written about depression, each educating us on how a specific ailment can be treated, others offering remarkable insight into the phenomenon of our biochemistry. This particular book however, provides an alternative approach to mental illness through the eyes of those who have suffered.</p>
<p><strong>Authors Note:</strong> I am bringing this book into the light of day because I have fought hard for something I believe in, having suffered, having communicated with people who suffer, and having listened to their tragic yet empowering stories. Some felt banished by society because they attempted suicide after living a life of hell, others because they were sexually abused as children and are now suffering extreme consequences. There are those who are oblivious and fail to comprehend why, perhaps it is genetic, a chemical imbalance, or it could have been a tragedy, again there is no shame. So let us discuss this “Taboo” subject, and shed some light instead of turning our backs.</p>
<p>Packed with resource; whether you are suffering, know of someone who is suffering, need a source for understanding or wish to gain knowledge&#8230;.. This book may help.</p>
<p><strong>The Excerpt: </strong></p>
<p>LIVING IN DENIAL</p>
<p>How many of us actually live in denial of our pain, our issues, our problems, our heartache, and our depression? I would suspect a very high percentage considering most of us find it an excruciating challenge to ‘re-live’ our pain. We would rather bury it within our sub conscious and forget it exists, the problem with this is that we will always endure the consequences, we are never truly, or even remotely healed. We will continue to experience the side effects that once hurt us so intensely. We fear the truth of our underlying pain, we fear the confrontation, so we crush it and tuck it away until another pain penetrates us and we crush that also. Eventually we either explode or we suffer with a conglomerated mush of issues we have not dealt with, how can we possibly think lucidly with all that mush floating around in our head?</p>
<p>A woman I once knew had endured the most horrendous amount of pain as a child. The beatings had eventually taken its toll as the fear and pain she suppressed became evident in her bi-polar behavior. She confessed “The pain is too intolerable to bring to the surface.” Instead she suffered every~single~day living in a galaxy of her own alien to any form of happiness. It was torture for me to watch a friend whom I loved writher and accept the pain as a comfort zone.<br />
I could not express to her the importance of unleashing that pent up fear because I was accused of ‘patronizing.’ I incessantly walked on eggshells not knowing when she would snap at me for no apparent reason. If you are one of these people, go and get help. You do not have to suffer for the remainder of your life; you do not have to make your loved ones suffer for the remainder of theirs. </p>
<p>By suppressing and living in denial we are not evolving, we are ignoring, and remaining stagnant, or, we are regressing. It takes strength to confess, even by admitting we have a problem, and this my friends, is the first triumphant step towards recovery.</p>
<p>Eventually with baby steps a gradual peace of mind will prevail, we have to believe that, and above all we have to believe in our ‘self’. Nobody has the ability to cure you but YOU. Strength and encouragement can be gained from others but we have to undertake the work in order to achieve. If we choose not to help ourselves, and are affecting the lives of others mentally, emotionally,or physically, isn’t that a pretty selfish act? </p>
<p>BREAKING THE CYCLE</p>
<p>It is a sad possibility that if your parents beat you emotionally or physically, argued incessantly throughout their relationship, or even molested you; the cycle could well be carried over to you. If your father had patronized you, or you endured watching a parent fall prey to abuse, the cycle could well be carried over to you. A young boy who grew up watching his father strike his mother assumes it is okay to hit women, he witnesses his beloved daddy execute this intolerance so it must be okay, right? Wrong! There is no excuse when you have the resources and ability to break the cycle! It is not okay to physically or mentally abuse another human being. Deal with your issues. </p>
<p>In our parents and grandparents day there was minimal assistance for their behavioral problems, or as I mentioned previously there was way too much of a stigma surrounding mental health. Today however, we are quite fortunate, we have the ability to break the cycle of abuse through receiving the help we need. </p>
<p>The only true legacies one should pass down to their children are love and positive guidance. It takes more than shelter, food and clothing to successfully lay down the foundation for growth. </p>
<p>WHERE TO DRAW THE LINE</p>
<p>Do you find yourself easily manipulated? And if so, do you consider yourself weak for allowing it to happen? Are you aware that inside of you, you have an inner strength so powerful that you have the ability to stop the manipulation? </p>
<p>I once had a partner who was a very clever mind manipulator, it drove me crazy. In fact it became so intolerable that I could not take anymore, even though I was in love. It hurt tremendously to have to break away but I knew I was going regress if it continued. Situations were constantly reversed making me out to be the aggressor, when I had done nothing wrong, yet would apologize nonetheless. I became so confused that I would often question myself, and had no idea what I had said to amplify an argument, and of course it was never explained when asked so I could rectify it or at least understand. A simple sentence was taken out of context and all hell broke loose. Consequently the relationship was on again off again, and was told at one point “I cannot venture any further into this relationship with you because I have failed to see your ‘ugly’ side.” I stipulated that I did not have an ‘ugly’ side, and was met with “Everybody has an ugly side.” So I got to thinking, hmmm! What is my ugly side? It drove me nuts trying to think of one so I asked a few of my friends to assist, all of whom assured me I did not have an ugly side. </p>
<p>So, I had fallen prey to being manipulated because I was in love. I was given a second and third chance and a fourth through a ‘Pass or fail’ test. I failed of course, though somehow managed to hang on to the relationship. I did however eventually let go for the sake of my sanity.</p>
<p>This is where you draw the line; in fact ‘way prior’ do you draw the line. Mind manipulation is one of the most damaging forms of abuse a person can have over us, we really do not have to tolerate it. I was not weak though acted with my heart instead of my head. The manipulator is the weaker of the two because there are underlying and unresolved issues. </p>
<p>What causes another person to assume the authority of manipulation? There is one word, an embedded “Insecurity” It is not you! What is you is that you feel you have to take it. </p>
<p>HAVE YOU EVER ASKED YOURSELF ANY OF THESE QUESTIONS?</p>
<p>Do I really want to die, or do I just want the pain the end?<br />
If I can somehow erase my pain I would be much happier<br />
If I was not in so much debt and felt like drowning every day, I would be able to enjoy my life.<br />
My life is so boring, what is the point?<br />
If my heart was not broken I would be able to love again.<br />
If I did not feel so sad all the time I would be able to laugh again.<br />
If I did not have a problem with my weight or appearance I would be happy.<br />
If people liked me I wouldn’t be so depressed.<br />
If I wasn’t so ill I would be able to do so much more with my life.<br />
If my spouse didn’t beat or manipulate me I would be at liberty to do the things I want to do.<br />
If my job wasn’t so stressful I could focus more.<br />
If only I could see a light at the end of the tunnel.<br />
If I had time for me and wasn’t so focused on others I would enjoy life more.<br />
I feel suicidal, nobody understands.<br />
If I had wings, I could learn how to fly. </p>
<p>Think about that last statement for a second. </p>
<p>If I had wings I could learn how to fly.</p>
<p>If you identify this as ‘running away’ you are definitely in the wrong mind set. If however you perceive it as having the ability to overcome your situation and soar, you are on the right conscious path. </p>
<p>All of these observations can be turned around to work in your favor, eventually.</p>
<p>Do you really want to die…?<br />
If we could ask those who have died by suicide if they really wanted to die, I wonder what percentage would say in my heart of hearts yes, or no it was more a desperate cry for help. Was it long pre-meditated, or was it spontaneous. If it was pre-meditated could they have been saved? These are all questions we will never know the true answers to, but we do know from some who have attempted that it was a desperate cry for help, a way in which to make others feel and acknowledge their tremendous pain. </p>
<p>If you have contemplated, or are contemplating putting a gun to your head or downing that bottle of pills, truly think about this! You will be ending your life! Gone, departed, kaput. If you do not believe in reincarnation you will not get a second chance, if you do believe you may well have to come back and go through it again, on the other hand, being a suicidal case will you even come back? This is a controversial subject that could be a whole book in itself, which again boils down to our religious preference. Do the untold tests that have led us to break make us sinners? I think not, at the same time my whole purpose of writing this book is to help those suffering to LIVE. </p>
<p>We need to face our untold challenges in order to become stronger wiser individuals. We need to work at overcoming our pain instead of allowing it to eat us alive, and we need not put our friends and loved ones through such excruciating pain because we couldn’t hang. It simply is not fair it is also unfair to deny our soul, spirit and being of happiness in this world. Today is a brand new day. We should….Grasp it, breathe it, live it! It is NOT time to end our life….It is time to repair it! </p>
<p>Erasing the pain…<br />
First and foremost we need to determine what is causing our pain; we can then slowly begin to eradicate it. If you are oblivious as to why you are depressed there’s a chance it may be a chemical imbalance. This is where medication comes into play. Remember 80% of those receiving treatment are treated successfully.</p>
<p><em>This eye opening book is available to download now as a PDF file for just $8.95. Please visit: www.unveilingthestigma.com<br />
Kindle version is available through Amazon.com.<br />
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		<title>The Relationship Between Insomnia and Depression</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[In a research paper that will be published in the Journal of Behavioral Sleep Medicine, researchers have confirmed that there is indeed a relationship between insomnia and depression, but not exactly what you might have thought. Many depression sufferers and their physicians have long thought that insomnia was caused by depression. &#8220;You can&#8217;t sleep because [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>In a research paper that will be published in the Journal of Behavioral Sleep Medicine, researchers have confirmed that there is indeed a relationship between insomnia and depression, but not exactly what you might have thought.</p>
<p>Many depression sufferers and their physicians have long thought that insomnia was caused by depression. &#8220;You can&#8217;t sleep because of the depression.&#8221; But now that there have been several successful depression medications released and prescribed, doctors are noticing that once the depression is cured the insomnia still remains. So what gives?</p>
<p>Well, the new theory is that insomnia is a contributer to or a predictor of depression. I&#8217;m sure many of us know the person who has insomnia, drinks alcohol or takes a sleeping pill to get to sleep, and the suffers subsequently from depression. It&#8217;s a pattern seen quite often, especially with women.</p>
<p>Another unique finding of the study is that the group most likely to suffer from their first instance of depression, were those who suffered from &#8220;middle insomnia&#8221;&#8211;that is when you wake up several times throughout the night but then go back to sleep. This of course could apply to any of us at some point in our lives- such as times of severe stress or change.</p>
<p>Doctors consider this finding important because it suggests that if you target and treat the insomnia that you will no doubt either eliminate the chance for a first-depressive episode or speed in the recovery of a depressive episode.</p>
<p>More studies are planned to look into this relationship deeper and to learn how improve sleep patterns of people. If you are battling depression and have sought treatment, but are still suffering from insomnia&#8211;talk to your doctor about ways to combat the insomnia. Make sure he or she doesn&#8217;t explain your insomnia away as a result of your depression. Treat both separately but simultaneously.</p>
<p><strong>Related Reading:</strong><br />
Say Good Night to Insomnia: The Six-Week, Drug-Free Program Developed At Harvard Medical School<br />
by Gregg Jacobs, Herbert Benson</p>
<p><a href="http://girlshrink.com/depression_screening.html">Have you taken our free depression screening yet?</a></p>
<blockquote><p>Lisa Angelettie, M.S.W., is a psychotherapist, author, and life coach. She has been helping people make smarter life choices since 1998. Get more free tips like this when you <a href="http://girlshrink.com/better_choices.html">subscribe to the GirlShrink newsletter</a> .</p>
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