Are You Single and Scared to Death That You Always Will Be?

Many of us have always assumed that we would meet our soulmates, get married, and have children all while we conquered the world in our respective careers. Oh how we were fooled! The fact is – is that was never the story of our grandmothers, sort of the story of our mothers, and definitely the story of many of us, just not most of us.

If you are single — you probably know that you are not alone, but you may not care about that. With all the media attention towards the fact that our biological clocks are ticking – we are running scared. How are we going to ever have the children we want if we don’t meet the man? I mean they are necessary:)

So this is my advice. There is no shame or desperation in knowing what you want out of life. Admitting that you want a relationship is fine. So what do you normally do when there is something you want? You go out there and get it right? Well, that’s what you have to do in order to meet the next Mr. Right.

• First, don’t let your fear of being alone forever overwhelm you. No matter what your age – it’s never too late for love. Never. So the first bit of business is to change your attitude about what the future holds.

• Think of all the places you have been to in the past month. If they mainly consist of going to work and possibly the supermarket, and then home – then we’ve got a problem! You must expand your pool of opportunity. Mr. Right is not going to knock on your front door and invite himself in.

• Put the word out. Meeting a man through someone you know is always great because you have a point of reference. You have at least one person to check out his background and give you a full report on the last girlfriend:)

• Stay positive. When you go out, you can’t go out expecting the worse – it will show all over your face and through your body language. Remember that most communication is non-verbal. Arms crossed? Head down? You are unapproachable.

• Get a hobby. Find something else to do while you are waiting for Prince Charming. It will help you grow and get your mind off of things. Plus, you are much more appealing to someone if you have outside interests.

• Ditch your buddies. You don’t have to take this absolutely literally, but it has been proven that a woman who goes out alone or with one friend has a much easier time meeting someone then a woman who has a posse!

• There are worse things than being single. Keep things in perspective. Life is great. Don’t let your life slip you by because you were overly concerned with things that really don’t matter that much in the grand scheme of things.

• If you are just doing all of this to have a baby and don’t really care about a relationship – then adopt! There are oodles of babies and children out here that need parents who want them.

Single & Scared Resources:

The Shy Single : A Bold Guide to Dating for the Less-than-Bold Dater
Many of us our very shy when it comes to dating, especially during that dreadful getting to know you process. This book helps you work on building your confidence and getting out there in the dating scene.

I Can’t Believe I’m Buying This Book: A Commonsense Guide to Successful Internet Dating
If you are considering going online to meet someone (which I totally support by the way:), then this is a great guide to get you through the process and know that you are not alone. This was written by a developer of several dating sites – so he knows what he is talking about. He writes with a lot of authority and humor.

Court Record – Background Checks
I believe in the essential goodness of every human spirit and all, but let’s be real here. It doesn’t hurt to check out a potential new partner. I mean you don’t want to end up starring in a Lifetime Movie of the week do you:) Check out this site and do a quick check.

Online Dating — FriendFinder
There are many online dating sites out there that promise a lot of things, but we think that this particular site is great because it is 100% free, so you won’t feel like you’ve been robbed if things don’t work out:) If you are considering online dating as an option, try this site.

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