How to Make Your Cougar/Boy Toy Relationship Last

By Oliver Jameson, founder of http://www.cougared.com – the free dating site for cougars and younger men.

Once you have found your perfect (albeit much younger) man, the problem is then how to keep the relationship alive.

Cougars may be starting to be depicted more favorably on television but society is still catching up with the idea of older women dating men much younger than them. Friends and relatives can find it much harder to deal with than if the situation was reversed.

Catty comments on cradle snatching will start cropping up in conversation and endless suspicion poured on his real motives. Many Cougars may find that what is fine for the likes of Demi Moore and Madonna – is not so easy for them.

An important thing is to remember that some of the negativity may well be based a little on jealousy. Let’s face it most people will be suspecting you both of having a great deal of fun.

This may well put their nose out of joint but this is their problem – not yours. Do not start feeling sceptical about your prospects just because other people don’t want things to last. Each relationship is unique – yours can survive if you are a compatible couple just like any other.

An important thing is not to bring any outside negativity into the relationship. Do not eternally question whether he is put off by any tiny sign of ageing you may fear might be showing.

If he’s in love with you, he probably hasn’t noticed so there is no need to shine a spot light on any slight imperfection. Certainly do not endlessly question his motives for being with you, until you make him start to wonder. Be ready to accept the simple truth that you are an attractive, sexy woman who is fun to be with.

Equally, while not trying to highlight the age difference, there is no need to pretend to be twenty-two. If your man is with you, he is probably there because he is attracted to older women and all the positive traits that can bring with it. Independence, sexual confidence and experience, knowledge, financial security – be yourself or he may be disappointed.

Make light of the times that you do not want to do the same things as him or his friends as you’ve simply outgrown them. It’s not necessary to feel the same way about everything. In many relationships it is the differences between the two people involved that can make things work so well.

You may find that if you can lose your hang ups then the people around you will lose theirs and you can get on with enjoying your long lasting cougar/boy toy relationship.

Are You A Facebook Cheater?

There is a growing problem online with both men and women having much easier access to cheating on their spouses and partners through social media sites – but the one that seems to be the site of choice is social media giant Facebook.

Now this is no reflection on the service that Facebook provides, in fact the service is so great that you can almost find just about anyone from the good ole’ days! I know people that have reunited with childhood friends and ones that have found long lost family members. So yes — it can be great. If you know a name or have some sort of identifying information for the person (where they live, a friend you may have in common), then you can find anyone. And that’s what folks are doing – sometimes a little too much.

Imagine if you could find the guy who wouldn’t give you the time of day in high school on Facebook?
What if he could see you know. Learn how beautiful and successful you have become. Imagine no more! That’s what you can achieve on social media sites such as Facebook, and some folks are taking it one step further and hooking up with those unrequited loves or old flames.

I can’t count how many times I have had clients or questions submitted to the Ask Girlshrink advice column, about Facebook cheating. People want to know if it is cheating to just flirt online, or what they should do about a partner who has hooked up with someone they found on Facebook. So I wanted to take a few minutes here to set the record straight.

Facebook Cheating Reality Check 1

Q: Is flirting with someone on Facebook cheating?

A: The answer is yes, it definitely can be. It is called emotional cheating. You can carry on a relationship with someone without there being any physical, intimate contact. People in long-distance relationships do it all the time.

Of course it really depends on what you and your partner define as “cheating”. Some couples will agree that it is only when physical contact occurs, but I would venture to say that that is not what most couples believe. If you were online with another person and he/she is fulfilling you in a way that you want or need to speak to him/her regularly online – that would be entering dangerous territory for any union. In fact, it could be worse than a one-night fling. When emotions are involved, attachments form, and people always get hurt.

Facebook Cheating Reality Check 2

Q: Should I be concerned if my partner sets his privacy settings to block viewing his wall, etc.?

A: If your boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse, etc. is on Facebook you should be permitted to be their friend and be able to read and participate on their wall. If your partner is restricting your viewing access to their page or if they haven’t even told you that they are on Facebook – there is a big concern there.

Facebook Cheating Reality Check 3

Q: Should I be upset if he looks up a old girlfriend?

A: Curiosity is the #1 reason why and how people find old flames. What they look like now. What they are doing now. If they are married. Do they have kids. So you shouldn’t necessarily be surprised if your mate looks up an ex and vice-versa, but perhaps you should be concerned if the communication continues past casual catching up. (Ex. meeting up for a drink to further catch up)

Facebook cheating is rampant. There’s no question about that. But the internet is a reality and social media sites are here to stay – which means easier access to old friends and new ones. There’s no need to “snoop” on your mate but make sure the communication is clear about what cheating means to you and vice-versa. With those boundaries clear — there should be no room for mistakes.

One of the most difficult words to learn how to say is “NO.” For women,
the issue is usually a strong fear of not being liked, yet by not saying
“no” we often close the door between ourselves and what we really want.
I’m sure you can remember a situation where “no” was the answer your body
gave you, but you overrode that reflex and ended up in a situation that was
both uncomfortable and unnecessary. The key is learning to trust your
body’s contraction when it tells you to say “NO,” and not to think that you
are smarter than your intuition.

Evans asks:

“My ex girlfriend says she likes me, but she doesn’t want a boyfriend or a
commitment right now. We began kissing and holding hands 2 weeks after the
breakup but she stopped because she doesn’t want to complicate things. What
should I do if I want to win her back?”

Based on what you’ve told me, there are two very clear signals here: “she
doesn’t want a boyfriend or commitment,” and “she stopped because she
doesn’t want to complicate things.” Love is not a game with prizes to be
won. Ask her opinion about what went wrong in the relationship, and use
that information to learn something and better yourself. Then you’ll be
better prepared to move on and find someone who actually wants what you
have to offer.

Brandon asks:

“On several occasions I have asked my fiancé how much she loves me and if
she’s willing to sacrifice things like; moving, leaving her friends and
family to come with me. She constantly avoids the questions. What I want to
know is does she really love me seeing as she doesn’t seem willing to give
up some things for our relationship?”

There’s one big sign of commitment and sacrifice you seem to be missing
here: Do you know how many people are on this earth? Nearly seven billion.
And who did she choose to be with out of all those people? YOU! Instead
of focusing on all the tests of sacrifice that you could come up with that
she could fail, how about being glad for the fact that she has committed
herself to being with and loving you? Sometimes it’s just a matter of
looking at the positive side of a situation instead of trying to spin it
negatively.

Melissa asks:

“My husband of 19 yrs. was just caught having an affair. It was going on
for 2½ years. Since then he has been begging, pleading, etc., that it was a
mistake and he only wants me and the kids. I believe he is close to a
nervous breakdown. Here is my question; the only place they ever saw each
other was at her apartment during the day for sex 2-3x a month. He never
bought her anything, took her anywhere or gave her any money. She confirmed
this so it has to be true. He insists he never cared for her, it was only
sex. He never told her he loved her. He called her in front of me and told
her I love my wife, you were only sex, she freaked. Could it be true to
have a 2½ yr affair and have no feelings for her?”

This is probably the hardest relationship dilemma you will ever face: the
contradiction between wanting to believe someone, when their actions have
indicated that they cannot be believed. The vows of marriage emphasize
monogamy and trust, the two supporting pillars of a committed relationship.
When the wrecking ball comes through and knocks those pillars out from
under you (both at the same time, no less), you have to ask yourself some
very difficult questions. What would it take for you to be able to trust
this man again? What would the situation have to be for you to believe
what comes out of his mouth? Also, question yourself about your own part
in this – what was and is your role?

We live in a world where a growing culture of self-examination has led to
us having a wealth of tools for healing. This is good news if you are
looking for some additional wisdom to help you face some tough issues. How
to Love Your Marriage by Eve Eschner Hogan is one of my favorite books on
this subject. Thank you for taking the time to share your situation.

Blessings – http://maryannelive.com

Yesterday morning I woke up rocked me by a dream trilogy that spoke to me in the kind of way some dreams do and leave a film that you just can’t shake. After about a half hour of trying to analyze the dream and figure out what the “message” was, I gave up and decided to simply surrender into the heaviness that accompanied it (which, of course, I wasn’t in the mood for and was resisting).

Which also meant that my day would likely involve tears and being uncomfortable and not being able to say “Fine!” when anyone asked how I was doing today. All the stuff my mind loves to bookmark for workshops, long walks with dear friends—you know, more appropriate times. Not right in the middle of my life. How rude.

So, because I trust my practice and know that the highest truth for me is to move in and through whatever is here, particularly when the tug is strong, I did. I know there is always a gift waiting for me when I take care to do “the work.” For me this ultimately means the need to feel, heal and deal with whatever is here and not climb over it! So, I cried through getting my hair cut, before and after my radio show, at the acupuncturist, in the parking lot—and eventually realized what it was that my dream was trying to tell me. That I was sad and needed to cry. That’s all.

Some of it was old, some of it was current; bottom line, I had stuffed and been stuffing some grief and simply needed to feel it, so it waited and then spilled over ‘cause I couldn’t hold it back any more. The difference between me today and even ten years ago is; today I know that it’s okay to be sad, to feel whatever, wherever and whenever I need to. It’s part of how I love myself. Funnily enough, I didn’t apologize as much, and I didn’t tell a long story to some of the folks who saw me cry, I just said whatever made me feel more comfortable. As a result of being true to myself, I got some great hugs and much-needed Kleenex. Imagine that!!

When I got home a friend had sent me this Hopi prayer and I thought, “How Divine is that! The gifts are already beginning to pour in as I emptied out.” So I thought I would pass my story and it along, just in case you need a hug, some hope or maybe permission to have a good cry! Enjoy…

HOPI MESSAGE

“You have been telling the people that this is the Eleventh Hour
Now you must go back and tell the people that this is the Hour.

And there are things to be considered:
Where are you living?
What are you doing?
What are your relationships? Are you in right relationship?
Where is your water? Know your garden.
It is a time to speak your Truth.
Create your community. Be good to each other.
And do not look outside yourself for the leader.
This could be a good time!

There is a river flowing now very fast.
It is so great and swift that there are those who will be afraid.
They will try to hold on to the shore.
They will feel they are being torn apart, and they will suffer greatly.

Know the river has its destination.
The elders say we must let go of the shore, push off into the middle of the river
See who is in there with you
And celebrate.

At this time in history we are to take nothing personally.
Least of all ourselves.
For the moment that we do, our spiritual growth and journey comes to a halt.

The time of the lone wolf is over. Gather yourselves!
Banish the word “struggle” from your attitude and your vocabulary.
All that we do now must be done in a sacred manner and in celebration.

We are the ones we’ve been waiting for.”

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One of my favorite Maryanne mantras is; you have to learn how use this (your head) before you do this (have sex) so you don’t break this (your heart)! And for many of us we can sadly add…again. Sounds simple enough, right? Yeah, well, we all know that when we get the urge to merge it can be so intoxicating that we give in to it, hoping this chemistry will magically translate into Happily Ever After.

Yes, I did say you break your own heart, ‘cause love doesn’t happen outside yourself, and while your heart may feel broken, the heart cannot break per se. Love and the heart, like everything else, is energy—in this case, when it comes to relationships, a shared field of energy. Given that energy does not break, rather it changes form, how then can we avoid this painful changing of form, perhaps, for some of you, again?

The easy answer is; you cannot, as the only thing constant in life is change. I am sure that is not the answer you were looking for. Unfortunately however, it’s as true as the fact that the sun is the sun—no matter how much you may not want it to set, that’s what it does and there is nothing to do but accept it. Unless you’re hopelessly romantic or convinced you’ll be the first person who ever lived to successfully stop it, so you’ll chase the sun trying to convince yourself it’s possible, like so may of us do with love.

As for me, I felt my heart had been slain a thousand times by men and love; my dreams had been trodden on, discarded, discounted; you name it, I felt it! I decided that I would narrow my search. Instead of the perfect relationship, I would seek the thing that would never leave me, abandon me, dispose of me, ignore me, be indifferent to me; the one something that would always be true. I would look for the highest truth of all, the real Happily Ever After, and I wouldn’t stop until I found it.

After many years of searching I did find real and true lasting love, ironically, it was in the last place I thought to look—inside of me and in my own heart. Not in someone else’s embrace or bed, not actually with anyone else at all. Looking back I would say, after all these years of becoming heart smart, discovering that the field of love I had sought for so long is inside of me continues to be one of the greatest gifts and highest truths I have ever awakened to.

Since we are love, we now set out to selectively share our lives with people who share similar values and beliefs, who agree that attracting and creating a healthy, fulfilling relationship is about more than chemistry—it’s about, soul, spirit, compatibility, and respect. So let’s together set our sights on being Heart Smart:

Five steps to being heart smart:
Develop a practice of self-inquiry: the mind is here to serve our body so we can follow our spirit.
Remember, love is a field and energy, and just because you FEEL love near or towards someone doesn’t mean they are the best choice for you.
Part of loving yourself means not compromising your safety, integrity or heart’s desires.
Understanding that sex feels good and ultimately triggers expectation and attachment, think it through before you do.
Just because you think love happens outside yourself doesn’t mean it’s true! Be a seeker of higher truth!

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Finding out who people are: seems like it would be relatively easy, primarily given that your body registers more than 90% of all perceptible information pre-cognitively. As a human being your internal navigational system, your intuition and senses, were designed to help “know” what you need to know about anyone within seconds, literally; sometimes sooner if you are extremely sensitive and tuned-in.

Think about it: the last time you met someone, what reaction did your body have to them? Your body either opened or closed, expanded or contracted. At this point you are somatically interpreting all the bazillion bits of data, like posture, tone, smell, gait, eye movement, and so on, at light-speed and drawing critical conclusions; are they angry, aggressive, combative, kind, relaxed, tense? Basically attempting to determine if you are safe, and on how many levels; physically, emotionally, etc. In one of Ayn Rand’s books, one of the characters says; Everything you need to know about someone you will learn in the first 30 seconds of meeting them. And I would add, If you are paying attention!

Within milliseconds that data reaches the “bellyy brain” or “intuition,” (not to be confused with the “mind”) and then the next, and less accurate in some definable ways, filtering process occurs. This portion is largely habitual behavioral recognition, which means it’s a historical filter in the mind, like a database of experience that’s being flicked through at a thousand miles an hour in attempts to recognize familiar patterns (good and bad), speech patterns, common references—any and all data you have that will classify this person into some category that is understandable and recognizable. As a response, your body will expand or contract. And here’s where we get into trouble.

Depending on the various programs and beliefs that we have inherited, learned and acquired, many of our filters have become reflexive defense mechanisms which kick in, sort of like human air bags or safety barriers; he’s obviously uneducated, men who wear tennis shoes with jeans are losers, women who have chipped nail polish and swear are obviously uneducated, women with boob jobs and hair extensions are insecure, fake and high-maintenance, etc. Not that this second phase is inherently bad, but when left unexamined or cross-checked against out first true instinct, we almost always find we have set ourselves up for trouble!

Think about that for a moment. You broke up with someone and you look back and almost always say to yourself, “Gawd, and I knew this-or-that, too.” Because, well, you did! But you over-rode it! So many of us do. It’s become a cultural norm to ignore our intuition. Up until recently, even talking about intuition openly was considered esoteric! Which is sooooo bizarre, given that the body NEVER lies. Rather than blaming this on our overly patriarchal culture, I would urge you to reconsider relying on “second-hand” information. Take some time to review your own life and see how relying solely on your rational brain has not done you justice. A clue: this brain of ours is largely a pain and pleasure center, and scientists are showing now that it is not, in fact, the generator of anything, but a receptor. As ancient wisdom would have it, a wonderful servant but a terrible master. The “belly brain” i.e. the intuition, is the connection for truth and part of the bigger universal field. Sorry, brain!

So why would we do that, over-ride this perfect and flawless gift that was designed to steer us away from danger and towards our heart’s greatest desires? Oh my sweeties, this is the cry of the divine feminine, and why it is sooooo critical that we resurrect and re-awaken “her” inside each of us! Many books—in fact, volumes—have been written to explain this horrific, historical, ongoing death; but for now I will say that we have and will continue to put ourselves in harm’s way unless we learn to re-connect with our BIG brain, and re-learn to inner-view.

For now, take out a pen and paper and go ahead, see for yourself. Look back and see who’s smarter, your body or your brain? And stay tuned for Part Two next week on how to resurrect and build back that ability to be heart-smart!! Awaken our divine intuition…
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As you can probably imagine, people are always asking me for dating tips. I could go on all day, but I want to highlight some of my current favorites. People can be intimidated by dating for many reasons. Perhaps you had a bad breakup or a divorce and you’re terrified of getting your heart broken again. Maybe you have some self-confidence issues and wonder what anyone would see in you. Whatever the case, if you wouldn’t know what to say to someone you wanted to date, keep these things in mind.

*Start out by knowing what you DON’T want. Make a list of deal-breakers, things you absolutely can’t tolerate in a mate. Maybe for you it’s smoking, or drugs, or gambling. Whatever doesn’t work for you, write it down (for tips on how to do this effectively, get a copy of Hindsight, What You Need to Know Before You Drop Your Drawers.)

*Remember that you are not a product on display. Don’t turn your dating technique into a sales pitch.

*Being desperate will get you nowhere fast! Slow yourself down and thing things through before doing anything drastic. We all have times when we feel the rush of infatuation and want to jump right in, but remember a time when you did that and then regretted it soon after? If someone really is right for you, then it’s not necessary to rush things. Slow down, pause, take a breather, step back. Just because someone seems perfect right now doesn’t mean you should go off the deep end right away.

*Remember that this is not a competition! There are 1.45 million potential mates for everyone who is out there looking. So don’t use your energy for jealousy or competitive spite – there’s enough love to go around, and then some!

*Start preparing now for your new relationship by getting your mind and soul ready. This means making a daily practice of clearing out the old and being open for the new. Get rid of those old memories of a traumatic past, and clear the way for a brighter future!

*Remember that what you show people most is what they will value in you. Don’t push your sex appeal unless that’s what you want to be valued for!

*When you’re around a potential partner, as yourself how you feel. Do you like who you are around them? Do they bring out the best in you, or the worst? Do you find yourself compromising your normal behavior to try to fit in with them? There’s a fine line between fear and excitement – learn to spot the subtle differences. You want to feel invigorated and comfortable, not anxious and insecure!

*If you found someone you like, find out what they bring to the table. You know what your contributions are – what about theirs? Last thing you want is a lopsided relationship where it’s all you give and they take.

*Don’t make it more difficult than it is – let yourself be drawn toward people who think you’re easy to love! I used to worry that I needed to modify my big, sensitive nature to attract people, but it turns out that the right person, my husband, loves my big, sensitive nature!

*Find out if you and this person are on the same page BEFORE you have sex. A relationship builds up to sex, not the other way around.

*Be safe, be smart, and use common sense. You want to set yourself up to succeed!

But my number one tip, and probably the hardest one to learn and put into successful practice, is this: Great relationships begin within!®

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In Tehran, Hojatoleslam Kazem Sedighi spoke to a group of
worshippers. He warned them that in order to protect themselves from
natural disasters, they needed to follow a strict code of modesty,
especially modest dress.

“Many women who do not dress modestly lead young men astray and spread
adultery in society which increases earthquakes,” he warned them.

For a moment, I was speechless, and wondered whether someone could really
come up with something so ridiculous. But then it occurred to me: it’s
thinking like this that has led to the prevalent view of women as the
prostitute/victim. And what powerful prostitutes, we are, too – so
powerful that men feel threatened enough to want to control our actions,
our movements, and our clothing. It’s women who cause natural disasters,
it’s women who lead men astray. of course, it’s all so clear now! Maybe
Sandra Bullock’s husband is right to blame women for his abhorrent
philandering! Wow, what a revelation. What is it going to take for us to
wake up and see this dangerous thinking for what it really is?

If I were Mother Nature, this man would have nowhere to hide. I would
rain down a plague of lightning storms, hurricanes, and tidal waves upon
him that would show exactly how I felt about false accusations and unfair
shame being cast on the beautiful creatures of my world. I would then
bring on the mother of all rain storms, washing away the hatred, the fear,
and the delusion that leads to this ridiculous behavior.

If I were the Ghost of Christmas Future, I would lead this man through his
own land, right into one of Iran’s top sperm banks and genetic engineering
facilities. He would see how the facility was run completely by women, and
how those women raised daughters who had gone on to become important world
leaders. One of the facility’s top achievements has been the altering of
the male anatomy. Now, men must earn a penis by first proving that they
are worthy of respect, and being consistently honorable in their thoughts
and actions.

If I were an analyst, I might forego office sessions and send this man
directly to a psych ward, where he could get advanced and intense help for
his delusions. I wouldn’t be surprised if it turned out that there was
some catastrophic event in his childhood that combined with his cultural
conditioning to create a mind that was bound to distort a repressed feeling
of helplessness into a bizarre fantasy of evil women with supernatural
powers.

If I were enlightened, I would have no room for hate in me, as the sadness
of seeing this terribly damaged man would compel me to help him. I would
embrace the emotional illness that severed his connection with the Divine,
and with reality. Then, just for good measure, I’d probably give his
spirit a wake-up call into right thinking by smashing him on the forehead
with a two-by-four, as a particular ancient monk was known to do.

If I were a man, words like these coming from another man would fill me
with embarrassment and anger, and I’d want to do something about it. I’d
want to find a way to make sure that this man would never again feel
compelled to bring unjust shame and humiliation upon womankind, which in
turn reflects upon everyone. Perhaps we could start by fitting this man
with a chador that couldn’t be removed, or maybe a chastity belt would get
the point across more clearly.

If I were an Iranian woman in Tehran, I’d be a lesbian, and choose a life
of celibacy!

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To an outsider looking in, it must appear that our dating culture is based around monetary worth.  And that’s not too far from the truth – we use money as a tool not only for dating, but for hanging onto a relationship that might otherwise fall apart.  After all the initial daily expenses of food, movie tickets, gas, parking, condoms, hotel rooms, drinks, cover charges at clubs, the price of being with someone only gets more expensive.

The gifts can get more and more extravagant, and eventually more and more personal, as well.  What starts out as buying your lover an iPhone or a mp3 player, can lead to you helping out with their debts, lending them money on a regular basis, or whatever else they start expecting from you.  When you begin a relationship on the basis of your bank account, it can be impossible to shift your worth in the relationship away from just your willingness to spend money on the other person.  The true cost of this?  The pricelessness of selling your soul.

As short a time as it may seem, most relationships begin to decline after six weeks.  There’s the initial game of using the tools of insecurity to lure a mate, where texting turns to sexting and, very soon, actual sex.  But then once all those cards are out on the table, there’s really nothing left, and when the person you’re dating sees that underneath the games, you’re just a human being and not some fantasy of perfection, they no longer want to play.  If you’re lucky, you manage to leave first, instead of being left.  That’s the depressing best-case scenario.

We all dream about how nice it would be to be accepted in a relationship for who we really are, not just what we look like or how much money we have, but most people write this off as an unrealistic fantasy that can’t exist in the real world.  But if you look at some of the pioneers who are beginning to dedicate their lives to waking up and living in a self-aware state, you can see that we are actually in a prime position to start turning this thing around, to begin evolving into a culture of people who look within ourselves to find the love and worth that already exists there, dormant and waiting for our acceptance.

This is actually a really lucky time for us to be on this earth and looking for love.  We are at a pivotal time in our history, where we are beginning to accept that there is more to attracting a mate than just baiting someone with physical lust or an impressive bank balance.  We are free to exercise our ability to choose to stop playing the blame game, to accept personal responsibility for how we behave, not only with others but as separate entities.  We are in a position where we can stop following our bodies around, looking for instant gratification, and can instead contemplate our choices, and make healthy decisions based on what we can expect the consequences to be.

And how does knowing this get you into the world of dating like a rich person?  You just have to stop and see where your real value lies.  Because it’s not in your bank account, or in your bra cup, or in the car you drive or your willingness to buy gifts for someone.  It’s the fact that you are a spectacular, unique representation of divinity, and there is no one else who can be you in the way that you are.  This is a profound realization, and acceptance of it is the greatest and most valuable secret to attracting the mate you really want.  All you have to do is fall in love with yourself, look within you for the happiness you seek, and then put yourself out there for others to see.  Showing the world the positive feelings you have about who you are is your golden ticket, and as I always say, great relationships begin within!  If you want to learn more about starting down the road to your true self, get a copy of Hindsight, What You Need to Know Before You Drop Your Drawers today!

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May every blessing come your way!

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